So a couple of my colleagues (read 25 somethings...males) are getting married sometime this year. This gave two of my cosest friends in office (GR and SM, both married) the opportunity (again!!) to pounce on me with their "so whats ur plan?" "its time already" "what on earth are you waiting for??". Ok ok, so lets be fair to my friends.. I will be 26 next month, I am in a serious relationship for the past 2 years.., I am not looking out for any other options. So what is it that is stopping me from taking the final ('final' sounds rather scary..like a point of no return) plunge ('plunge' is no better!!). Well I began my attempt to explain my point of view (point of view being - I am happy as is, I do not see any fayda of getting married, I am not THAT old etc. etc) to SM and GR, and I strated hyperventilating..an all too familiar feeling in the pit of my stomach, which is how I react when people start discussing marriage with me.
Dont get me wrong, I am not opposed to the institution of marriage..come to think of it I am rather indifferent to it... but that does not really mean that I wish to be one of those rebellious sorts who do not feel the need to get married. I am sure one day I will feel the ned to get married, but I am afraid that day will be somewhere in my late 30s and since I know the feeling of 'need' will arise so late in life and that I cannot really wait to feel the 'need' I will have to tie the knot way earlier than that and that too for no good reason. And imagine the kind of responsibilities that will accompany that step.. I will have to make sure that my house is spick and span, the food cooked at my place is delicious, I may need to install a landline, I will have to have a proper pujaghar , I will no more be able to entertain people by organising a byob with plastic cups and plates. The list is endless. But I guess you lose some you gain some (I am still wondering though...what is it that one gains by marriage??)!!
cheerios!!
Monday, July 13, 2009
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How I too get all knotted up at the thought of the responsibilities accompanying marriage noticeably as you rightly put it,having to have a "proper" pujaghar and getting up early in the morning to worship as well!Damn,the stereotype notions we have been fed!
great! a fellow- believer (or non-believer should I say.) Assuming you are in the same position as me??
Tch tch no,I am in no such position!
Crockery ....furniture....maid...landline...bills....maybe flowerpots...maybe house of ur own....extended family...like one more set of parents, sisters brothers...blah blah...
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